When preparing for this "Asking for a Mate" series, we asked teenage boys from The Man Cave's workshops what they'd like to open up about, or what they wish was talked about more. "What does it mean to be a man?" came up a lot.So for this episode, Man Cave facilitators Andrew and Luther explore what being a man means to them, and how their personal stories and backgrounds play into their responses.
In this episode of our Asking for a Mate series, we’re gettin’ juicy. We asked our pals, Luther and Andrew from The Man Cave about sex and the pressures that can come with it – especially as a dude. Check it out.
For your viewing pleasure — and with the help of a coupla of legends — we’ve turned our 'Asking for a mate' blogs into a new video series. Kicking things off in episode one we have The Man Cave facilitators Luther and Andrew on camera, discussing one of life's most uncomfortable scenarios. Spoiler alert: one of them has been. Hit play!
People think socialising is an innate skill; it’s actually one of the most learnable skills and because of COVID-19 (with its lockdowns and ensuing isolation) some of us are out of practice. So, with that in mind let me break it down for you and provide some practical tips to manage your anxiety and build those social skills back up. What is social anxiety? The anxiety you're experiencing is a fear response – and it kicks up in reaction to a story that isn’t true yet. From a technical standpoint it’s a link between your fear brain (amygdala),...
Having a kid, becoming a dad, is maybe the biggest thing that’ll ever happen to you. It’s completely understandable to feel like you’re not “ready” - you’re not first to feel this and you certainly won’t be the last. You’re not alone “Learning I was going to be a dad was the most horrifying thing,” says a good friend of mine, Torrie, a professional wrestler aged 30 who has now been a father for 14 years. “All these thoughts circled through my head. ‘What if I’m not good?’ ‘I’m scared’, ‘I don’t think I can do this’. I was not...
Oh man, it’s cruel. You spend your teenage years praying that you won’t get a boner in public, then before you know it, you’re dreaming of someone pointing and laughing at your awkward erection just so you know that it still exists. The (not so) hard truth If life is pain, the penis is…I don’t know, I guess it’s weird more than anything. Like, have you looked at it closely? It’s just there, hanging, all the time. Deep down, every man is terrified of his penis not working properly, but it’s something that a lot of us will go through....
Try thinking about your parents while having sex. Did that work? No? Fine, let’s put that on the back-burner for now and concentrate on something far less uncomfortable: statistics. One-minute facts for one-minute men Premature ejaculation affects 21–31% of the Australian male population, though that number is probably low given the likelihood of underreporting. Why is premature ejaculation underreported? Well, it’s embarrassing. The truth is, we still don’t know what exactly causes premature ejaculation. It’s thought to be a case of physiological or psychological factors, or maybe a combination of the two, working hand-in-hand to knock your confidence around. Going...
Short answer - no. Long answer - also no. Hear me out. My personal experience When I first heard about mindfulness, it sounded wanky to me. I pictured a very relaxed monk, sitting on a mountaintop somewhere, fingers curled into circles, chanting “ohhhhm…” But then I started to learn a bit about it, through my therapist. In my experience, it’s actually just about having awareness of my thoughts. No need to go meditate in silence for 10 days, or sit with my eyes closed until my mind is empty. (If you want to do that though, go for it, I’ve...
Hard to tell without knowing how much exactly a “tonne of meat” is, but there are many schools of thought - and plenty of scientific boffins have sought to answer this exact question. Meat might give you bad BO Back in 2006, a study tested the “effect of meat consumption on body odour attractiveness”. They got 17 men, split them into two groups, giving one a two-week meat diet and the other a non-meat diet, and then got 30 women to rate their body odour for pleasantness, attractiveness, masculinity and intensity. The study found that “red meat consumption has...
Pornography is something that many people turn to for education about eroticism. However, it’s not meant to educate, it’s meant to entertain. People turn to it because they want to see what sex looks like. Then, they start using it as a bit of an outlet, an addictive outlet, just to get off. What happens to the brain and body when watching porn Porn skips the desire period. That time when you need to drop into your body to feel sensual and erotic and instead goes straight to getting off. Your penis works, but you’re not feeling anything from an emotional...